Instead of creating expectations of what should or should not be happening, cooperate with the form that this moment takes. Bring a ‘yes’ to the isness, because it’s pointless to argue if it already is.
A greater intelligence is available to you when you no longer reject, deny, or ‘don’t want’ what is.♥ ~Eckhart Tolle
Eckhart Tolle invites us to embrace the “isness” of life, which above all else has to include our own being. If we cannot accept the “isness” of ourselves, we will be unable to truly accept life itself.
People do sometimes try to make us feel we don’t matter. They criticize, put us down, berate. But if we realize this is coming from their own inability to accept themselves, it needn’t touch us.
In their true being, no one believes that we don’t matter.
On the contrary, we matter so much that they long to matter to us—and it’s the fact they don’t realize how much they matter to themselves that causes them to attempt to dismiss us.
To be fully in this moment, this reality right now, as Eckhart invites us to be, is to recognize that our longing to matter to someone else isn’t at its root neediness. Rather it’s a desire to express to another the fact that we matter to ourselves.
We’ve been looking at Eckhart’s statement in Stillness Speaks, his second book, about acceptance. He writes:
Acceptance of the unacceptable is the greatest source of grace in this world.