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Being Grateful In Good Times and in Bad

As The Gratitude Guy, I have come to learn that being grateful for everything that happens to us in our lives works. It is through living a life of gratitude that we learn that for everything that happens, there is always a reason behind that event. I did not always think like this. But now that I have gotten older, I realize the full power of gratitude and how it can help us to become better people.

Here are some reasons:

1) Stuff happens in Life

In life, there are always going to be gains and losses as well as ups and downs. It is through these occurrences that we experience life on both levels. If there were only good things happening to us in our lives, our lives would be perfect. But perfection as we know it does not exist on this Earth. One of the main things that life has taught me is that in life, there is never fairness. Fairness is only an ideal situation. It is often said that experience is the greatest teacher. So when we live on this Earth, we have different experiences. And these experiences determine who we areas individuals in terms of our skills, abilities and talents.

 

2) Lessons are learned

We are always learning from our life events regardless of whether that event happening is a good or a bad event. Realize that there can be no good or bad in your life anymore if you are truly present and going with the flow of life. For example, let us suppose that you have just lost your job that you were working at for five, ten or maybe fifteen years. You may have lost your job because the office or company shut down. Or you might have lost your job through company restructuring. Whatever the case may be for your job loss, there is always a lesson behind it. The lesson may be that it was the time for that thing to occur. The loss of your job may mean that you now have an opportunity to find an even better job than the one you had previously.

3) There are always those who have less than you

No matter what happens to us, our situation is still going to be better than millions of other people around the world. There are always going to be people who are poorer than us or less fortunate than us in some way. If you had a warm meal tonight at the dinner table with your family or loved one, consider yourself very fortunate and grateful. There are millions of people around the world with not enough food to eat. They are starving and living under very harsh conditions.

 

 

 

I realize that there are many people right now in the United States and the World that are struggling financially or losing their homes and it is tough. These are considered to be the hardest economic times since the Great Depression. But nothing lasts forever. There are cycles even in the economy. It is often said that what doesn’t kill us makes us stronger.

If you are struggling right now, remember that these times are temporary and with a positive attitude you will emerge as a stronger person. This is the way that I believe now. Because in life, things are always constantly changing. And with these changing times we have to realize that life is not always a bed of roses.

But I can tell you that gratitude applied on a daily or consistent basis will produce great results in your life.

This is true even in the short-term. I can say that because that has happened in my life.

For life is discovering your true authentic self and living as closely to it as you can.

So, be grateful, my friends!

The Gratitude Guy

About Dave Block

Dave Block, The Gratitude Guy can be found on Facebook or his Website.

half empty or half full

Do You See The Glass as Half Empty or Half Full?

Is the glass half empty or half full? This is a common expression, used rhetorically to indicate that a  particular situation could be a cause for optimism (half full) or pessimism (half empty). The purpose of the question is to demonstrate that the situation may be seen in different ways depending on one’s point of view and that there may be opportunity in the situation as well as trouble.

Let’s look at the negative. It has been scientifically proven that it takes less energy to be in a positive state of mind than a negative state.

Then why are so many people in a negative state of mind more often?

Maybe because the #1 priority is our minds isn’t being happy, its maintaining the coherence of sense of identity –and we’ll put up with a little suffering rather than give up our ideas of who we are. Or it’s easier to be negative than positive and so people like to feel  sorry for  themselves and then sit back and think everything is going to solve itself.

It’s just sheer laziness!

Negative people are a danger not only to themselves but also to those around  them.  Consequently, it’s important to preserve your own state of mind while  trying to help them.  They have an almost endless capacity to dwell on what they don’t want, whining and complaining about their lives while denying  responsibility  for their results.  Their fear blocks the natural flow of energy  from within, so they must get it from other people instead.  After spending a few hours with them, you’ll usually feel drained, tired, worried, or stressed. Negative people have an endless supply of pity party invitations.  If you  receive one, don’t RSVP.

Enough of the negative, let’s talk about the positive.

Have you ever noticed that some people seem to be able to maintain a relatively positive attitude regardless of what’s happening around them?

Like everyone, they can appreciate the good times, but they also seem to be able to focus on the positive in the face of some pretty negative events. They see the good in difficult people, they see the opportunity in a challenging situation, and they appreciate what they have, even  in the face of loss.

Positive people have overcome their fears to such a degree that their energy flows outward.  Consequently, they give energy instead of taking it.  After spending time with very positive people, you’ll tend to feel energized, uplifted, and inspired.

Studies have shown that cultivating a sense of gratitude can help you maintain a more positive mood in daily life and contribute to greater emotional well-being and bring social benefits as well.

Cultivating gratitude is one of the simpler routes to a greater sense of emotional well-being, and can be  accomplished in several ways:

1) Make Gentle Reminders

When you notice yourself grumbling about a  negative event or stresses in your life, try to think of 4 or 5 related things  for which you are grateful. For example, when feeling stressed at work, try to think about  several things that you like about your job. You can do the same with relationship  stress, financial  stress, or other daily hassles. The more you gently remind yourself of the  positives, the more easily a shift toward gratitude can occur.

2) Be careful with comparisons

Many people cause themselves unnecessary stress by making comparisons. More  specifically, they cause themselves stress by making the wrong comparisons. They compare themselves only to those who have more, do more, or  are in some way closer to their ideals, and allow themselves to feel inferior  instead of inspired. In cultivating gratitude, you have one of two options if  you find yourself making such comparisons: You can either choose to compare  yourself to people who have less than you (which reminds you how truly rich and lucky you are), or you can feel gratitude for having people in your life who can  inspire you. Either road can lead away from stress and envy, and closer to  feelings of gratitude.

3) Keep a gratitude journal

One of the best ways to cultivate gratitude is  to keep a gratitude journal. Not only are you combining the benefits of journaling with the active adoption of a more positive mindset, you are left with a nice catalog of  happy memories and a long list of things in your life for which you are  grateful. (This can be wonderful to read during times  when it’s more difficult  to remember what these things are.) Keeping a gratitude journal is simple; see  this gratitude journal article for  ideas on different ways to maintain one.Because habits are  usually formed within two or three weeks, you will have to actively focus on maintaining gratitude less and less as you go, and the habit of a more positive  (and less stress-inducing) attitude will be more automatic. And greater feelings  of emotional well-being can be yours.

So, do you look at the glass as half empty or half full?

Because the world you perceive is a reflection of how your think  about  yourself. People seem negative to you because you filter out the  positive  things that don’t fit your own negativity.

Look within yourself. By being grateful you will likely find yourself noticing more positive things in your  life, dwelling less on negative or stressful events and feelings of  ‘lack,’ and  having a greater sense of appreciation for the people and  things in your life.

Just remember that the glass isn’t half empty, it’s half full!

The Gratitude Guy

About Dave Block

Dave Block, The Gratitude Guy can be found on Facebook or his Website.

Be grateful

Don’t Take Anything For Granted

If someone takes something for granted, they assume that thing will never change and assume that whoever or whatever it is will always be there.

Is this how you live your life?

If so, please don’t take anything for granted.

Let me tell you why.

 

 

Without realizing it, people live their lives by taking huge chunks of it for granted, by ignoring it.  Here are some examples of good fortune that we may have forgotten to be  grateful for: food, shelter, clothing; the country we live in;  opportunities to work, play, and study; the miracle of life; the  misfortunes we have avoided; the diversity and spice of life; good  health; our gifts and talents; our achievements; freedom of speech; the  kindness, encouragement, and help we get from others; the technology  that makes life more pleasant (air-conditioning, appliances, computers);  the ability to create our destiny with the power of choice; art, music,  dance, poetry, and beauty; our friends, family, and pets.

What is the best way to stop taking things for granted?

The answer?  Gratitude, the opposite of taking things for granted.

By  being thankful for what you do have, exactly as it is, you give it the  space and the nourishment to become more.  You transform your  perspective on life.  No longer are you a victim, lost as life pushes  you in whatever direction it wishes.  You cannot judge and be grateful  at the same time.

Envision a child when you give them a  present.  When they are truly grateful and excited for what you have  given them, you want to give more and more.  Now consider the same child  who is not grateful, who complains about what you have just given.  The  last thing you want to do is give more.  Life is a giver of gifts,  large and small, and you are that child.

Be grateful for what you do  have, don’t ignore the blessings under your nose.

The rewards of gratitude are many. For one, it will change a life of emptiness to one of fulfillment. Unappreciative people are never satisfied and live empty lives. If we do not appreciate what we have now, how can we enjoy what we hope to have in the future? To have what you want; learn to want what you have. Also, when we are fully aware of the treasures we already have, we eliminate worry, fear, greed, and envy. Finally, an ever-grateful heart will soften the blow when tragic events occur.

But wait, there’s yet another category of events and circumstances that we often neglect to be thankful for, and that’s the difficulties we struggle with and the obstacles we have to overcome. For these are what make us stronger.

The bottom line is to be grateful for everything in your life and take nothing for granted. For you cannot be ungrateful and happy at the same time. The surest way to always be happy is to always be grateful.

We need to develop an attitude of gratitude, an appreciation for the gift of life. We ignore so much of the goodness in our life, only missing it when it is gone. Don’t ignore the beauty of what you do have, right now; of who you are right now; of the fact that you are alive, right now, able to make any choice you wish, able to do anything you want, right now.

Because the bottom line is that we ignore so much of the goodness in our life, only missing it when it is gone!

Enjoy this beautiful Earth!

 

The Gratitude Guy

About Dave Block

Dave Block, The Gratitude Guy can be found on Facebook or his Website.