10 of the Best Ways to Consider Consideration

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As you go about your day, consider being thoughtful to someone else. You’d be surprised how easy it is to make a person feel special with one simple action or word from you. Being considerate of each other has become a thing of the past for many; however, there are many MORE people who are kind, selfless, and understanding of another human being.

The thing is that NOTHING is more appealing in this world than a simple touch or gesture from another person; one that lets us know that they care. Yeah, we may think becoming successful and having many things will be gratifying, but more importantly it is through our grace and kindness to one another that actually gives us the ability to become more powerful than ever before!

Think about how much you love and care for your pet, or even a car or some other inanimate object….THEN go be that kind to someone else in that manner.

To get you started, here are 10 of the best ways to consider consideration:

  1. Ask a family member or neighbor if they need anything while you’re out running errands.
  2. Take on someone else’s responsibility for a day; your spouse, a friend, a parent. They’ll be grateful for your service.
  3. Say “Please” and “Thank You” to those who do for you and say “Hi” to everyone!
  4. Chill out when it comes to a different point-of-view. Everyone has an opinion and you don’t have to agree with them. Think about how important the point is you’re trying to make. Is it really worth arguing about?
  5. Rub the shoulders of someone in pain, or extend a hand to a person in need.
  6. Kneel down and talk to a child; come down to their view of the world.
  7. Stop interrupting when someone else is talking. When in conversation, give the other person a chance to talk, too.
  8. Consider a person’s schedule, time, abilities, and even personality.
  9. Don’t leave other people out. For example, sit lower, place yourself properly, or keep your head still in a room full of people; like church, a concert, or other event…so as to not obstruct the view. Another example could be to include others in your invitations so as to not leave someone out.
  10. Remind yourself that every plastic bottle or box you recycle is probably two or three bags a week (in my house anyway) that you save from the landfill. That’s like helping billions of people all at once!

Some of these may be tough for many of readers, I’m sure. Good news is that being considerate is always as close as your nearest retailer. For instance, #8 comes in handy when in a checkout line. If the guy behind you has one item and your cart is a little hefty, let him go in front of you. Oh, and let’s not forget the cashier! Consider if she is busy; not to mention, dealing with the frustrations of those who wait their turn. Offer her a kind word and a stress-free transaction.

We all have things we can work on in ourselves. I can definitely name a few for me. The thing is to be conscious of what you are putting out there so that the best of you comes forward. Self-awareness is key when making changes to your behaviors. Make a note, list, or add a calendar entry with a recurring event, “Be considerate to someone today.” With time, you will automatically become a giver; of yourself and of your thoughtfulness.

When you intently put one consideration after another out there, you instantaneously become more graceful and happy. How about that for payoff!!!

Consider adding a comment here or on my post, “What’s the One Good Thing…”

I will end with a quote about consideration and character.

“Your greatness is measured by your kindness; your   education and intellect by your modesty; your ignorance is betrayed by your   suspicions and prejudices, and your real caliber is measured by the consideration and tolerance you have   for others.” – William   J. H. Boetcker

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Kimberly Mitchell

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Happiness of the Heart

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HAPPINESS OF THE HEART

By Mary Cook, M.A., R.A.S.

True happiness comes from the heart, not the mind.  Our mind typically judges, compares and places conditions on happiness, pointing out what’s wrong or missing even in the best of circumstances.  In the midst of a wondrous experience, for example, the mind may remind us that a certain person is not present to share the wonder, and thus happiness is diminished.  Yet the mind tells us that when we receive abundant gratification of a desire, we’ll be happy.  It might be success, sex, money, power, leisure time, a mate, alcohol or other drugs.  When we’re chasing after happiness, we’re also running away from problems, trauma, shame, loss and pain.  And the mind tells us that these troubles will continue or reoccur at any moment.  So we’d better capture and control the objects of our happiness.  Addictions and compulsions are practiced with the intent to distract us from pain and stress and artificially induce euphoria or relief.  This keeps the false self dominant rather than the spiritual self.  This separation from an active conscious relationship with our Higher Power means that no amount of anything we desire can lead to true happiness, for we have disconnected from the source of pure love, truth and joy.  Only unhappiness comes from this illusion of separation.  Fear and attempts to control and possess what we desire, removes the very possibility of happiness.

Real happiness is not dependent upon anything.  It is our true nature.  We can see it in young children before we teach them otherwise.  They amuse and entertain themselves.  They are sensitive and empathic.  They love without biases and prejudices.  They experience joy watching a caterpillar, looking at ribbons of light coming through the trees, playing with dad’s fingers, babbling to mom, and jumping up and down.  Young children can express more happiness from a box than the gift inside it.  A box after all, can be a hat, a boat, a drum or a house.  Young children still feel the kingdom of Heaven within them.  They can remind us of what we have forgotten.  Happiness is right now, it’s free, it’s within us, it gives and shares, it’s outside of time, space, distance and conditions.  It’s creative, uplifting and contagious.  Having a sense of lightness, playfulness and humor about ourselves and life, contributes to heartfelt happiness and reconnects us to our true selves, others and life.  It also gives us resilience, adaptability, hope, courage and strength in times of trouble.

Happiness arises from relaxing and surrendering mental focus, and allowing our hearts to open and expand for no reason.  In this place we can remember that we were created whole and holy and that we are interconnected with all of life.  Correct bowing places the heart higher than the head.  Feeling united with a healthy, loving Higher Power allows us to experience the power within our heart.  A bedridden patient in pain can forget his suffering when a beloved child visits.  All of a sudden we’re not sick when someone needs us.  A crippled, arthritic man can lose all symptoms of disease when playing the piano because of his happiness in doing so.  A petite, frail mother can lift heavy objects off her child to save her in an accident.  Spontaneous acts of heroism, altruism and love spring from the heart, whereas the mind would say this is impossible or problematic.

Allowing our attention to be in the present moment and appreciating what exists right now, counting our blessings, being in loving service, enjoying nature, music, art, people, animals, and seeing beauty around us, is happiness.  We can have a daily practice of identifying and surrendering to our Higher Power our small minded selfishness, harmfulness, willfulness and defensiveness, and ask for divine will to work through us.  We can hold compassionate space for suffering and painful emotions to be expressed and released.  We can begin this process by feeling compassion for ourselves and loved ones.  We can accept our ignorance and transgressions, and honor our desire for redemption and transformation.  Then we can practice feeling compassion and acceptance for strangers and for those who are harmful in the world, believing that goodness exists in the soul despite human expression.  In most situations as adults, safe boundaries, straightforward assertiveness and healthy behaviors on our part suffice to protect us from those who might harm us.  Forgiveness is an emotion of the heart that releases trapped toxic energies within us, creating greater space for serenity, freedom and joy.  This is a rejuvenating practice and additionally helpful in placing more positive energy into the world.

It is vital to demonstrate principles that reinforce our spiritual nature, and to strengthen our faith when we are feeling lost and confused.  We experience an even higher level and depth of happiness when we’re able to identify what goodness and joy exists in difficult circumstances, what opportunities for growth, character development, unselfish demonstrations of love, spiritual evolution and unity with the God of our understanding are present in trials and tribulations.  Long ago I visited a poor village and asked the elder if he was happy with his life.  He replied that yes, he was very happy.  In some years, he explained, there is abundant food and no children die.  And so we sing, dance and rejoice.  In other years there is not enough to eat, and sickness and death visit us.  In those years our love expands, we become closer and give our hearts to one another, for that is all we have.  So, yes, we are very happy all the time.  This village elder was abundantly rich with happiness of the heart, and this is a magnificent model for all of us.

 

Treasure Hunt

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TREASURE HUNT

By Mary Cook, M.A., R.A.S.

Our thoughts, feelings, images and actions determine the quality of our life more than external circumstances.  The effort and time we spend trying to change our outward life, would be better spent on monitoring and transforming our inner world.  The most effective means to improve our future, is to pay attention to the present moment with appreciation and positive energy.  Finding the treasure within us means that we must hold compassionate space for negative energies while we examine their dynamics.  Old pain can be exchanged for new unfolding moments of safety, support, resources and acceptance, when we identify the positive energy hidden behind the negative energies.

Agape ChoirThe positive energy behind jealousy is a desire for healthy attention.  The positive energy behind prostitution is a desire to feel intrinsic worth for the physical body.  The positive energy behind rage is a desire to feel understood and be healed of past harm.  The positive energy behind fear is a desire for comfort and reassurance.  The positive energy behind overeating is a desire for emotional nourishment and protection from pain.  The positive energy behind self-centeredness is a desire to truly know oneself.  The positive energy behind judgment is the desire to recognize and amend personal shortcomings.  The positive energy behind being incarcerated is a desire to develop healthy internal discipline and structure.

When we are muscling our way through a mundane life, we have forgotten the magnificence of the moment.  When we collapse from stress that we see as bigger than us, we’ve forgotten who holds us in holy embrace.  We can lose ourselves in thought, and we can reclaim ourselves in spirit.

As our thoughts, feelings, images and actions become increasingly positive, we become increasingly wise, courageous, resilient, peaceful, humble, inspiring and loving.  This is the treasure hunt of life.