10 of the Best Ways to Consider Consideration

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As you go about your day, consider being thoughtful to someone else. You’d be surprised how easy it is to make a person feel special with one simple action or word from you. Being considerate of each other has become a thing of the past for many; however, there are many MORE people who are kind, selfless, and understanding of another human being.

The thing is that NOTHING is more appealing in this world than a simple touch or gesture from another person; one that lets us know that they care. Yeah, we may think becoming successful and having many things will be gratifying, but more importantly it is through our grace and kindness to one another that actually gives us the ability to become more powerful than ever before!

Think about how much you love and care for your pet, or even a car or some other inanimate object….THEN go be that kind to someone else in that manner.

To get you started, here are 10 of the best ways to consider consideration:

  1. Ask a family member or neighbor if they need anything while you’re out running errands.
  2. Take on someone else’s responsibility for a day; your spouse, a friend, a parent. They’ll be grateful for your service.
  3. Say “Please” and “Thank You” to those who do for you and say “Hi” to everyone!
  4. Chill out when it comes to a different point-of-view. Everyone has an opinion and you don’t have to agree with them. Think about how important the point is you’re trying to make. Is it really worth arguing about?
  5. Rub the shoulders of someone in pain, or extend a hand to a person in need.
  6. Kneel down and talk to a child; come down to their view of the world.
  7. Stop interrupting when someone else is talking. When in conversation, give the other person a chance to talk, too.
  8. Consider a person’s schedule, time, abilities, and even personality.
  9. Don’t leave other people out. For example, sit lower, place yourself properly, or keep your head still in a room full of people; like church, a concert, or other event…so as to not obstruct the view. Another example could be to include others in your invitations so as to not leave someone out.
  10. Remind yourself that every plastic bottle or box you recycle is probably two or three bags a week (in my house anyway) that you save from the landfill. That’s like helping billions of people all at once!

Some of these may be tough for many of readers, I’m sure. Good news is that being considerate is always as close as your nearest retailer. For instance, #8 comes in handy when in a checkout line. If the guy behind you has one item and your cart is a little hefty, let him go in front of you. Oh, and let’s not forget the cashier! Consider if she is busy; not to mention, dealing with the frustrations of those who wait their turn. Offer her a kind word and a stress-free transaction.

We all have things we can work on in ourselves. I can definitely name a few for me. The thing is to be conscious of what you are putting out there so that the best of you comes forward. Self-awareness is key when making changes to your behaviors. Make a note, list, or add a calendar entry with a recurring event, “Be considerate to someone today.” With time, you will automatically become a giver; of yourself and of your thoughtfulness.

When you intently put one consideration after another out there, you instantaneously become more graceful and happy. How about that for payoff!!!

Consider adding a comment here or on my post, “What’s the One Good Thing…”

I will end with a quote about consideration and character.

“Your greatness is measured by your kindness; your   education and intellect by your modesty; your ignorance is betrayed by your   suspicions and prejudices, and your real caliber is measured by the consideration and tolerance you have   for others.” – William   J. H. Boetcker

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Kimberly Mitchell

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The Top Two Ways to Create a Confident Young Adult

For me, the top two ways a parent teaches their children to feel confident and good about themselves is by telling them what they should expect for and from themselves in their life.

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  • They should expect to be challenged in life; so they grow and learn.
  • They should expect others to treat them with respect; anything less than that is unacceptable, and
  • They must expect the same applies to how they treat others; with respect.
  • They should expect that there are choices they could make during the process of expectations.

Of course, children of all ages run into people who won’t follow those rules; whereby they are challenging the boundaries of respect and expectations. It could be a man, woman, friend, or family member who won’t adhere to your child’s way of thinking and their balance of peace becomes disrupted in the moment. This is the moment in time when conscious choices come in; so balance can be restored and their journey of life continues on.

Without looking at the choices offered to them, your child can get stuck in a downward spiral into the bickering, anger, resentment, or whatever feeling of that moment; in turn, stunting their emotional growth. In one way or another, the child must decide what to do in that given situation. Your tools and guidance helps them to rise through the options.

Perhaps an apology or disconnect from the person is in order. Maybe your child needs to put a boundary in place, tell someone of authority the circumstances, or hopefully, if he or she doesn’t know the best way to handle a situation, they know they could come to you for advice.

When a child learns to expect more for and from themselves, they know better how to make good choices for themselves. For starters, teach them how to appreciate. Appreciate what, you say? Themselves; for who they are, what they have to offer, what they have the ability to do, and for what they are given. When a person knows that they are blessed, valuable just as they are, they exude it. When they are truly grateful for those blessings, their personality comes alive, their self-esteem rises, and they beam their light out to the world.

To take a line from the movie, The Help, teach them to say,

“I am smart, I am kind, I am important.”

Although there are many lessons to share with your kids as they grow, most importantly, remind them that they are worthy of respect. Their self-worth will replicate through their higher self-esteem, and you’ll know that you are helping to make them stronger, more loving, more loved, and grateful individuals.

As you go about your day, make conscious efforts to take notice if your child isn’t feeling good about him- or herself; then, remind them of their worth. By way of the media, peers, and even family members, kids find reasons why they aren’t good enough. Help them to know better. Teach them to be more independent at a young age so they transpire into men and women with high morals, values, and self-esteem. Show them that they, on their own, are acceptable, respectful, and worthy beings. By introducing this idea now, when they leave your protected cover they will know it to be true.

In summary, the top two ways a parent can teach their children to feel confident and good about themselves is to tell the children to 1) expect others to respect them, and  2) expect respect from themselves. If they don’t expect others to treat them right, then they are disrespecting themselves. Both 1 and 2 go hand-in-hand. When they honor themselves, they inadvertently receive respect externally.

Happy Parenting!

Kimberly Mitchell

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What I Learned From 21 Days In Meditation

On March 11th, I entered into a 21-day meditation challenge with two of the most well-known successful spiritual leaders of our time. One is most well-known for his ability to explain the inexplicable connection between our spirituality and our physical beings. The other is a highly public figure known for her riches, generosity, and deep spirituality guiding her to the right opportunities at the right times.

For 21 full days, I sat down to my computer with an open mind and open heart to listen to what Oprah and Deepak Chopra had to teach me that day.

The biggest thing I learned from the experience was that these two amazing teachers didn’t teach me much of anything. In fact, I learned everything I needed to in those 21 days from the stillness in my heart.

What I Learned From 21 Days In Meditation

For this meditation challenge, I committed to being open to whatever it was that I needed to learn. These are the two major insights I took away from my 21 days committed to a quiet heart and still mind:

By nature, my body is in balance. The body is so much smarter than the brain. In any given moment a million different actions are being taken without me having to do anything to facilitate them. Each and every time my heart beats or I take a breath, there is no conscious thought – just an automatic action.

When my body is not in balance (like if I have a headache or stomachache), it means that something that I am doing is throwing off the internal balance. The same can be said for when I begin to crave certain foods or when I have stiff muscles. My body is sending me signals to return to a certain point of balance – whether that is getting up from my chair to move a little bit or eating some carbohydrates to give me energy.

What’s so encouraging about this insight is that there are always things that will restore that balance – what holds us back from achieving that perfect balance all the time is the knowledge of what to do to achieve it. I’m excited and encouraged knowing that every time I feel less than stellar – that there will always be something I can do (or my body can do for me) to return me back to my balanced state.

The second thing I walked away with was the reminder that what I see as my outer world is a direct reflection of my inner world. I learned that my thoughts aren’t just things that come and go. But even the tiniest bit of internal dialogue can affect what appears to be happening around me in my daily life.

We’re often told that it only takes one thought to create a cascade of those specific thoughts. One negative thought leads to more negativity and one positive thought can lead to more positivity. I’m encouraged that even when I begin doubting myself or thinking about others negatively, that I can turn it around by remembering all that I am grateful for. With positive thinking and gratitude, I will have more positivity and things in my life to be grateful for.

From this experience, I am even more grateful for having this one body that I have been given. This 21-day meditation challenge has only solidified more that it is my job and my responsibility to keep it as much in great health and balance so that I can live a long and abundant life.

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